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inner_game_coach

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  • Birthday April 22

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  • Age
    30-39
  • Swing Speed
    101-110 mph
  • Handicap
    11
  • Frequency of Play/Practice
    Multiple times per week
  • Player Type
    Casual
  • Biggest Strength
    Short Game
  • Biggest Weakness
    Approach
  • Fitted for Clubs
    No

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  1. It's certainly going to be a journey - doing it once isn't going to satisfy me very long haha Good for you! Investing in your mental game is going to pay dividends. Shoot me a message if you want to talk about mental game coaching - my book is open for new folks.
  2. @Golfspy_Lukes made a good point to let everyone know WITB - so here I am. Driver TM Sim 2 Max 10.5 - Tensei Orange Stiff shaft Hybrids 5H - TM R5 19 degree 4H - Srixon Z H65 3H - Callaway Rogue X Irons 5i to 9i - TM M4 Wedges PW - TM M4 AW - TM M4 56 - Top-Flite 56/14 bounce Putter Peak 502 (a very old blade that's never done me wrong)
  3. Hell yeah, TCB! Those are some great goals. I've got my books open if you're looking for some coaching on the mental side of the game.
  4. I stood on the 18th tee not aware of my score - it is recorded automatically through Arccos. I knew I was playing well (to my standards) but it didn’t feel lights out. There were some mishits, but they were saved. Some short putts that were missed. I didn’t even card a single birdie - which I have done in the past multiple time and still card in the high 80's, low 90's I put a drive about 245 into the fairway - I am not a long hitter. I had 135 left to the front of the green, pin set 10 paces on. I stood over my bag and without thinking or making judgments, I let myself pull my 8i. On the range my 8 is my 150 club - but I took the ego out of the situation and trusted my feeling. I put a smooth swing on it and the ball just cleared the sand trap guarding the right of the green - pin high, 10 yards to the right of my target. So, when stepped up the 18th green at Architects to take my 35ft birdie putt, I was surprised to see that I had shot a 75 through 17 holes and that if I carded a par here, I’d break 80 and my lowest round ever. I immediately got nervous and though there was no one to care about my score and no crowds watching me, I felt this perceived pressure mounting. Something I had avoided for 17 holes. I let my thoughts get the best of me and I left myself with a nerve-wracking 5ft left. I became acutely aware of my tense upper body so I took a deep breath and allowed my shoulders to relax. “This truly doesn’t matter one way or the other”, I told myself. I stepped up the ball after getting my read and I imagined the feeling of picking the ball out of the cup and took my shot. It landed true and I finished the hole with a par. 79. While I celebrate that accomplishment, I know that some days will be better or worse than others and that I should not feel defeated if the next time I go out I shoot an 89. Expectation is the enemy of enjoyment. Up until that round I hadn’t played 18 in 3 or 4 weeks. I had been to the range a bunch because I am one of those nuts that loves to practice. But practice has been different lately. Instead of trying to “perfect” a certain swing, or come more from the inside, or hitting the ball first, I am working to practice what I preach - learning how to feel and getting my mind in the right space to play. I am learning to trust that my body can make the swing that it needs to make to get the ball where it needs to be. I was going out with little expectation on myself. The only thing I told myself as I played was trust your “learning self” and accept the uncertainty - because uncertainty is part of the fun. If I could control every shot, I’d be great but at the cost of not enjoying the game. I was great at my job and could control most aspects of the work I did, but I still quit because it didn’t bring me joy in doing it anymore. I don’t want golf to be a job. I’m here to have fun, release stress, and enjoy nature. Accepting the uncertainty in turn allowed me to unconsciously loosen up as a played. And being loose allowed me to have a smoother, more athletic swing than normally wanting to control how I swing and tightening up. I don’t know how often I’ll shoot that low, but I’m inclined to continue accepting the uncertainty and enjoying the game a little more. I know working on my mental game will make a larger impact for me than trying to engineer a better swing.
  5. It's that time of year, autumn golf! I want to try a new track and found this place closer to Trenton/ Philly. Check them out here - The Bucks Club Check out the poll to find a date that works for everyone who wants to be involved. Would love to meet some of you! I know Sundays tend to work best for us all who have packed Saturdays for other activities. I will look into what tee times are available once I get a date that works best
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  7. Hi all! Saw the NE Spy Classic happening in MA and it makes me want to do a meetup a little closer to the Mid-Atlantic area. I've got a free Sunday on Oct 23rd and hoping some of you around also do! I put a couple options in the poll. Hoping to get a good group going
  8. Mishits are the worst cause they get you thinking you messed up your swing somewhere and then lose trust in it. Curious, what are you looking to accomplish with the stats you take down?
  9. It's funny (in an ironic way) that keeping mental stats feels like a distraction haha. In what way are you going to test it for yourself? Additionally, just curious, where do you feel is your biggest mental game opportunity? Thinking too much over the ball, focusing too much on swing mechanics, holding on to bad shots for multiple holes, something else?
  10. Oh WOW! Glad you're out and playing again. What do you feel like is holding you back from hitting more than one good shot in nine holes now?
  11. I think you're right on the money in your first point. The idea is to use the time between shots to not over-analyze, or think too much, but rather to relax and prepare for the concentration needed for the next shot. What am I thinking about before I clear my head - great question. For me it's to go through my pre-shot routine, engage in the process that I've built for me and then just before stepping up to hit, I tell myself to swing to my picture. I think going through my routine also helps me work through any intrusive thoughts. Then I let go and do my best to not have any thoughts while I'm over the ball. With the small exception of a process I use to be mindful of where my clubhead is through my swing. Not so much thoughts but more like checkpoints - for example, when I hit the top of my swing I say "one" to myself, then after impact I say "two" and after the swing but before looking up I say "three". I'm certainly far from perfect but it helps. And that's why I keep score of my mental, so I can know which shots/holes I did a better job with. I understand that disappointment when I don't shoot to my picture but I am working on letting go of that feeling pretty immediately. I have trust that any changes or reinforcements I need to make happen on the range and the course is for playing. Hope that makes some sense.
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