Why do some struggle with a 3 wood so much?

[dlow206]

I can't hit a 3 wood off the tee, because when I address the ball, the head looks too small.

I can't hit a 3 wood off the deck, because when I address the ball, the head looks too big.

 

[Ultimate Junior Golfer]

I just recently took my 3 wood out of the bag for the first time ever. I had a gapping session that showed no significant difference between my 5 and 3 wood. I never struggled finding the middle, but I always hit it low. That was strange for many reasons including I hit my irons to the moon and back, and I don't have speed issues (106-108mph with driver).

However, a twenty-handicap friend of mine hits his 3 wood the best out of all his clubs. 

In my opinion, it is different for everyone. When I was first learning, I always topped my 3 wood. I believe this is one of the reason's I never really fully bonded with it. If I didn't start hitting 3 wood until I was a better golfer, I believe it would have performed better. 

There is no shame using a 5 wood though; I hit mine 245 carry and get it high in the air. Many other junior golfers would agree with me.