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1 hour ago, ballplayer002003 said:

I hate that I have to have this moral dilemma but damn my conscious.  So I have been invited to play the following courses next June:  Del Monte, Pebble Beach, Spanish Bay, Spyglass and Pebble Beach again while staying at the Lodge at Pebble Beach for a cost of $3700...not including air fare from BWI and food, side bets and souvenirs.   I am figuring about 5-6k would be a good approximation for this trip.  Now, as many of you may know, I am a teacher so money is a factor in play while almost everyone going on this trip are millionaires to some degree.  For me, this is a bucket list trip, who wouldn't want to do this trip?!  

Here is my dilemma, I have three children and for that kind of money, I can take my ENTIRE FAMILY to the Caribbean and have a fantastic time.  I am having a hard time trying to justify spending that amount of money on myself when I could use it for my entire family.  The golfer in me says, "go, it's a once in a lifetime trip", while the father in me says the kids will only be around for a few more years, make memories with them and don't be selfish.  

What would you all do? 

Without knowing the ages of your kids, I'd say take them to the Monterey/Carmel area. You could take the kids to the Monterey Aquarium and you could also take a couple day trips up to Santa Cruz to the boardwalk and San Fran (assuming everything's even open). If the kids are young enough, that might be just enough fun for them to have a good time, You could then slip in some good golf in the same trip. If the kids are teenagers though.. it might not be as fun/memorable. 

We used to live right in that area a few years back (Pacific Grove) and we were never without fun things to do with our daughter who was 3 at the time. We plan to move back there next year because we miss it so much. Every day and weekend was like a mini vacation for us. But as a teenager, my family lived in Fresno for a bit and my parents would take us to that area to visit and I remember thinking it was kind of boring and a place for old people. Granted, I didn't care about golf AND was upset that my parents weren't taking us to Disneyland or Six flags because that's where the cool kids went for vacation. 

If this isn't an option for a family vacation, I'd have to agree with the majority and say make the family/wife happy with a memorable trip somewhere exciting. You can always get in a couple rounds of resort golf at a swanky tropical course just to get your fix in. 

 

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10 minutes ago, xOldBenKenobiX said:

It is funny but true, the regional dialects and accents can mean a completely different Portuguese from north to south. 

I think my favorite accent and linguistic mannerisms outside of our regional own, is the one from people of Bahia, that everything is okay and calm on their voices was always intoxicating.

I had a really good friend from Salvador, Bahia. Claudio Brito. He was a Capoeira instructor. I think culturally, you could draw some parallels to our New Orleans Creole culture. All of the folks who I knew from the Bahia area were just so full of life and were just happy people in general. You're right, they had just a calmness in their way of speaking that always made you feel like you were in welcoming company. 

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For what it’s worth, I turned down Bethpage Black and Winged Foot West two years ago for the cost of hotel and caddies.
 

It wasn’t fun but it didn’t line up with life at the time. Like you, I have kids and work as a FF so we aren’t rolling in cash. 
 

My wife understood my decision to pass and has a good understanding of what I passed on. At the time, I needed to be around to help with our 10 month old daughter. My wife manages the county special victims unit for pediatric fatalities and sex crimes so her days are long and it’s always busy. 
 

Maybe it won’t pop up again and that’s Ok. 

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Ha! this is great. That show is firmly entrenched on my top 5 of all time list. 

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6 minutes ago, StrokerAce said:

Ha! this is great. That show is firmly entrenched on my top 5 of all time list. 

same here, one of those shows that if I'm channel flipping and nothing is on, it's always good for a laugh.   The episode where Ray's Dr. asked him what he does to destress and Ray said, play golf.   The Dr. said, then you need to play more golf, and he went home and told Deborah that was the Dr's instructions.  LOL

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33 minutes ago, Golfspy_CG2 said:

What she says: "It's fine, you should go!"

 

What she means:

Oh, hell no. - Ghetto Black Girl - quickmeme

 

LOL, we all know we've gotten that mixed message from our other halves before 🙂

This is exactly what i was thinking. If the wife says "it's fine", she is definitely not okay with it.

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Thats a big negative for me man.

Trip with the family. Can do other smaller golf trips until later in life or when you hit the lottery. For me personnally I dont think I could do longer than 2-3 days for a golf trip either. To much time away at this stage in life.

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3 hours ago, ballplayer002003 said:

I hate that I have to have this moral dilemma but damn my conscious.  So I have been invited to play the following courses next June:  Del Monte, Pebble Beach, Spanish Bay, Spyglass and Pebble Beach again while staying at the Lodge at Pebble Beach for a cost of $3700...not including air fare from BWI and food, side bets and souvenirs.   I am figuring about 5-6k would be a good approximation for this trip.  Now, as many of you may know, I am a teacher so money is a factor in play while almost everyone going on this trip are millionaires to some degree.  For me, this is a bucket list trip, who wouldn't want to do this trip?!  

Here is my dilemma, I have three children and for that kind of money, I can take my ENTIRE FAMILY to the Caribbean and have a fantastic time.  I am having a hard time trying to justify spending that amount of money on myself when I could use it for my entire family.  The golfer in me says, "go, it's a once in a lifetime trip", while the father in me says the kids will only be around for a few more years, make memories with them and don't be selfish.  

What would you all do? 

Nope. Not going. Family first... Those courses aren’t going anywhere, they’ll be here many years from now, so it’s not like this is the ONLY time you will ever be able to go. No way to justify the expense, for me at least....

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Yeah - I don't think it's "once in a lifetime".... however, your kids will be grown and gone before you know it and the memories you can have with them in the Bahamas will last forever. If you want to do a golf trip, maybe something shorter and local with a few friends?

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2 hours ago, azstu324 said:

I had a really good friend from Salvador, Bahia. Claudio Brito. He was a Capoeira instructor. I think culturally, you could draw some parallels to our New Orleans Creole culture. All of the folks who I knew from the Bahia area were just so full of life and were just happy people in general. You're right, they had just a calmness in their way of speaking that always made you feel like you were in welcoming company. 

Sorry @ballplayer002003 for high jacking your thread.

@azstu324 I'm absolutely thrilled to know that you lived in Brazil.

I miss a lot things from specially the food. 

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I had a similar opportunity which happened to fall on my twins birthday. I spoke to my wife and the twins as a family and went on the golf trip. They were 8 at the time. Still married, twins still love me and we make other memories together. That being said I felt like crap every day when we were done playing because I wasn’t home. If I had it to do all over again I’d still go on the golf trip.


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When I was your age, I had 3 kids too, I would have made the wrong decision and went on the golf trip. Now being 63 and having 3 grand-kids, I see things a lot different. Your kids will grow up soooo fast, they will be in College or married and moved away. Take the advise from someone who made some poor decisions. Spend that money and time with your family. Those golf courses will be there later in life. You may have to pay more later, but it will be worth the wait.

 

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47 minutes ago, Wedgie said:

I had a similar opportunity which happened to fall on my twins birthday. I spoke to my wife and the twins as a family and went on the golf trip. They were 8 at the time. Still married, twins still love me and we make other memories together. That being said I felt like crap every day when we were done playing because I wasn’t home. If I had it to do all over again I’d still go on the golf trip.


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To me, this scenario is justifiable. I consider the OPs situation to be a bit different in that he would be forgoing the opportunity to take his family on a really nice vacation because he can only select one or the other due to cost.

For a birthday, I would figure out how to convince my wife that we don't need to celebrate a birthday on the actual date and we could celebrate it the week before or after. 

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Put me in the family camp as well.

I hope you're getting your kids on the golf course.  Some of my best memories are vacation golf with my kids - both on gorgeous courses and dog tracks.

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That is a sweet list, but golf is so mind related that any guilt will surely screw up your scoring and enjoyment of the trip. I remember way more our family trips than any golf outing I’ve been on. 
 

Something I should start doing for my bucket list trip, put aside $50 a month towards the future trip

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I would not take the golf trip. I taught for 17 years and money was always an issue and even when the spouse said,,"I dont mind", thete wss always some resentment built which often festered and came up later in "discussions".

I eould use that for a family trip. It will be a trip everyone rememvers and talks ablut for life. You can probably even get in a round or two on the family vacation too.

While it seems like a once in a lifetime trip, other opportunities will come after the kids are gone and you can take your wife on the golf trip and she can enjoy spa time, vacation time at the resort while you golf and you can make couple memories while you still enjoy golf with friends.

The wife and zi do this a couple of times a year these days when there's much more disposable income.

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I would do the family trip but take your clubs along for an early morning round once or twice. Opportunities will come up again to play your dream courses. 

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