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One day I was playing with a guy and we were on the 15th green as a funeral procession drove by on the street along side the golf course. While watching this scene, the guy took off his cap and stood at attention.

On the next tee I complemented him for his display of respect. He replied "I was married to her for more than 40 years".

Bada Boom. Been telling that one for 15 years. Still funny though.

 

 

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I grew up on a golf course, and played sporadically at best once I got married.  I went many years, on and off without ever picking up a golf club.  I even lived on a golf course again a few years ago, and maybe went out back 3 or 4 times to play 5 holes or so in the 2 years we lived there.  But my son was just becoming a teenager and time with him and my family was much more important than golf was.

 

However, once my son was gone, and the wife and I became empty nesters, I play all the time now.  Do I regret not playing while raising the family?  Not for a second.

 

My advice to Dads with kids in the house won't change either.  Spend all the time you can with them now, because once they leave your house, or go off to college or whatever, you'll be nothing but an ATM to them.  Treasure their childhood years, because you can't get that back.  The money comes and goes, but the memories with the kids last forever.

 

Golf will be there for you once the kids are gone.

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I played around 2-4 times a week until my first son was born in 1995. A second son was born in 1999. I could not justify the time away from the boys to play golf.  They were involved in sports and other activities.  So they were the priority.  I probably played 5 times between 1995 and March of this year. Most of those times were in a scramble or such.  I started playing again now that both boys are in college.  I have no regrets at all about giving up golf to spend time with them.  I just wish we had more time together now.  They grew up so fast.  The nearest is 4-5 hours away so there is more free time.  When I started back in March it was like learning all over.  Hopefully my swing is better than it was when I stopped. lol. I had to upgrade my clubs.  When I first went to hit balls the grips on the irons crumbled. lol.

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I'm certain that there's no one from the USGA on this forum, but they really need to be listening to you guys that have basically given up the game because of family (and I was in the same boat for the first few years of my oldest). Why is no one other than TopGolf creating fun golf experiences that last an hour or so? Why does golf need to be an 18 hole round of golf that takes 4+ hours? Or a 9 hole round that takes 2+ hours? And oh, by the way, that 9 hole round generally costs more than half of the 18 hole rate. Let me play six holes and pay 1/3 of the greens fee. Let me play 3 holes and pay 1/6 of the greens fee. Install Egull Pay and let me play as many holes as I can get in and pay for what I play.

 

Now that I think about it, I was pretty fortunate when my oldest was little. Once she was old enough, I put her in classes at the local First Tee. Most of my golf for a couple of years was playing the three hole pitch-n-putt course there with her. Then when she got older, I'd take her out on the executive course to play a couple of holes. Because I'm a volunteer, they let me do that without paying. Her playing kept me around golf, but my volunteering set me up so I was in a position to just go out and play a few holes and not worry about wasting greens fees. I could have done that if I'd stayed at the club I belonged to, but I'd basically have been wasting my dues, and they didn't have a junior program (which is why I wound up at TFT to begin with).

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After my second child (son) was born, I stopped playing completely for about 7 years. It was nice to hit a 9 iron 150 yards, now it's a hard 7. Still, I wouldn't change a thing. I love being there with the wife and kids when they needed me. My son is now 11 and he enjoys playing golf. I need to take him to an instructor because he's ready to take the next step in golf. I get more frustrated than him when we go to the range sometimes, and I feel terrible about that. Now, even if I spend $50 to 70 on green fees for the both of us, the wife won't say anything LOL! 

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I love the 6 hole idea. Break the course into 3 6's, and people who don't have the time to spare for 18 or even 9 can still play.

It's rumored that the 18 hole course was settled because there were 18 shots in a bottle. It's time for the 6 pack revolution!

 

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I love the 6 hole idea. Break the course into 3 6's, and people who don't have the time to spare for 18 or even 9 can still play.

It's rumored that the 18 hole course was settled because there were 18 shots in a bottle. It's time for the 6 pack revolution!

 

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Yeah I've always been partial to that concept as well. 3 sixes sounds great

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I think 12 would be perfect. I usually fall apart on 13-18.

 

That said, I quit golf for 7 - 8 years after starting my family. Now I'm back at it, and getting the kids into it was awesome, and frankly I don't give a rip what my wife thinks about it.

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This is my first Father's Day and it's pretty clear that Golf takes a back page. I'm definitely ok with that, raising a daughter has been incredible.

 

I'll get out more once we're settled with a schedule. My mother is retiring next month and I'll have an additional means of someone watching the baby.

 

All good, life comes in cycles. My wife knows this is important to me and that I have adequate work / home / life balance.

 

 

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I'm in a similar situation. Golf helps fill my competitive juices (outside of coaching) and is something I like to do with my friends and helps keep me active. My wife has been happy to support my playing so far (although it does suck spending so much time away from the little one). I think things will start to change if/when #2 comes along and once my daughter is old enough to start doing her own activities and needs supervision there.

 

We shall see, but I'd love to help get her into golf (so far her favourite plastic golf club is the driver, so she's like her dada) so we can enjoy the time together. So far, she's an active little girl, so sounds like she's going to be a chip off the old block!

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I'm in a similar situation. Golf helps fill my competitive juices (outside of coaching) and is something I like to do with my friends and helps keep me active. My wife has been happy to support my playing so far (although it does suck spending so much time away from the little one). I think things will start to change if/when #2 comes along and once my daughter is old enough to start doing her own activities and needs supervision there.

 

We shall see, but I'd love to help get her into golf (so far her favourite plastic golf club is the driver, so she's like her dada) so we can enjoy the time together. So far, she's an active little girl, so sounds like she's going to be a chip off the old block!

Sounds like a good plan!

 

 

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I think 12 would be perfect. I usually fall apart on 13-18.

 

That said, I quit golf for 7 - 8 years after starting my family. Now I'm back at it, and getting the kids into it was awesome, and frankly I don't give a rip what my wife thinks about it.

My wife wants nothing to do with golf but she's is super

supportive

 

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