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Has someone ever made a comment that just got under your skin and ruined your round?

What did they say or do?

Were you able to get back on track? What helped reground you?

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Nothing gets under my skin that would affect my play, but it can be annoying when I play with someone who consistently calls others “lucky” when it’s not called for. If you scull an approach and it rolls up close to the pin, or hit a tree and get a good bounce, OK that’s lucky. We laugh when that happens, part of golf. But if you burn the cup/leave tap ins within inches on other holes, and sink one or two long breaking putts in a round, or chip in occasionally - that's not luck IMO, that’s normal probability in golf. If you hit a lot of good shots, some will drop. 

I play regularly with 60+ guys in league and only 2 actually say they resent when others have legit “luck” and shots go their way. Most of us are genuinely happy to see others play well, and never bemoan others “luck” deserved or not. I had a round a couple weeks ago where I had my share of good and bad luck and M said ‘you sure are lucky’ after I made a breaking 20 footer and even out of the blue complained coming down hole 17 ‘I wish I was lucky...’ 

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I play with a guy pretty regularly that comments on every shot good or bad. Doesn’t affect me and I’ve never played with a random person that made any comments that I would even come close to getting under my skin

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38 minutes ago, Buffly said:

Has someone ever made a comment that just got under your skin and ruined your round?

What did they say or do?

Were you able to get back on track? What helped reground you?

I play with a group of guys who're always needling one another, and none of it has ever bothered me.  The only comments that have ever irritated me are "encouraging" comments about horrible shots.  "Wow, you killed that one, great shot"  as the ball heads towards the middle of a pond.  But I get over that irritation just as quickly as I get over my own disappointment over my own shots.  Its all in fun.  Besides, irritation at anything isn't productive, it has never helped me to hit the next shot good.  All I can do is to concentrate on the present, on the shot I need to hit right now.

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I try not to get worked up, however when I get pissed with my self, I hit the next shot really well.
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I play with the same group every week and we chuck s*** at each other the entire time. Its funny when your playing terrible or playing good because it's all in good fun. I have had a comment from someone while playing in a tournament that bothered me a little but I got over it real quick because I realized its not worth my time and I don't know this person and they mean nothing to me.

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20 minutes ago, StrawberryShortCake said:

I play with the same group every week and we chuck s*** at each other the entire time. Its funny when your playing terrible or playing good because it's all in good fun. I have had a comment from someone while playing in a tournament that bothered me a little but I got over it real quick because I realized its not worth my time and I don't know this person and they mean nothing to me.

The trash talk can be pretty juvenile and repetitive (most people I know use the same tired s*** comments over and over and over), but a little is fine. I don't do it unless one player is really dishing it out, and then I just tell them to knock it off instead of engaging, because there's a fine line between friendly and unfriendly s***. I'm out there for in equal parts for golf, enjoying just being outdoors and camaraderie. Trash talk can degrade camaraderie, why mess things up? From what I've seen better players aren't usually the trash talkers...

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I used to play golf several times per week with a coworker that played major college football.  He was a contributor on a team that lost in the BCS National Championship game in the 90's.  Needless to say, the guy was so overly competitive, he was always trying some stupid "gamesmanship" on the rest of us.  I usually just ignored him and did my own thing.  I got a little frustrated one day when he was playing as well as I had ever seen him play.  He was talking so much trash, I just got tired of it.

I said something to the effect of "man, I've never seen you play this well.  Do you inhale or exhale on the downswing?"  He struggled to get the ball airborne for the next two-weeks.

I've mentioned "Mask" in a few other posts on here in the past.  The guy is a treasure.  So incredibly thin-skinned and insecure for someone with his athletic background and affinity for talking trash!  Perfectly willing to dish it out but absolutely cannot take it!

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5 minutes ago, sixcat said:

I used to play golf several times per week with a coworker that played major college football.  He was a contributor on a team that lost in the BCS National Championship game in the 90's.  Needless to say, the guy was so overly competitive, he was always trying some stupid "gamesmanship" on the rest of us.  I usually just ignored him and did my own thing.  I got a little frustrated one day when he was playing as well as I had ever seen him play.  He was talking so much trash, I just got tired of it.

I said something to the effect of "man, I've never seen you play this well.  Do you inhale or exhale on the downswing?"  He struggled to get the ball airborne for the next two-weeks.

I'd never do it, but my Dad said he asked another obnoxious player about the peculiar hitch at the top of his backswing (and refused to elaborate - 'sorry, forget I mentioned it'). Said it messed him up for the rest of the round, if not longer...

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Pretty much never bothers me but if I'm playing poorly enough it could (of course no one would notice because I was playing poorly anyway).  The last time was about three and a half years ago when a friend of mine asked when the baby was do.  He realized as soon as he said it that it was a mistake (I have tons of stuff going on in my life and that comment was exceedingly unfair).

Regardless I took it to heart, entered a fitness program a month or so latter and lost 45 lbs. in 6 months.  I've kept most of them off even through the COVID mess so it turned out good.

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I have said things in an attempt to get under someone's skins, usually in match play. I don't think anything that someone has said has gotten me off my game. What they do may but I usually don't put a lot of thought into what they say. 

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Depends who I am playing with.  

A group I play with each fall on an OC golf trip are from college days and we are brutal toward each other but everyone is ready to laugh at a great zinger, even the target.  It doesn't get under anybody's skin because the quality of play is secondary to the fellowship time together.

A group we used to play with in what we called the scramble tour (summer fundraisers) was less severe but we could still joke with each other.  An example that I loved was me hitting a fat iron shot and somebody commenting to the next guy that was hitting he would hold his belt from behind so the shot hitter wouldn't fall into the crater and break an ankle.  😄  I couldn't wait to steal that line and use it on another group of guys!

Any competitive rounds where it might happen I would realize whats going on with regards to comments and ignore them.  I really haven't run into too many trying to play mind games over the years, most are decent guys playing their own game.  Years and years ago I did get tired of one guys comments after about 5 holes and mentioned in a very sincere way that I wished I could delay my wrist release like he did so beautifully.  I almost felt bad by the end of the round......almost.

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23 minutes ago, Shapotomous said:

An example that I loved was me hitting a fat iron shot and somebody commenting to the next guy that was hitting he would hold his belt from behind so the shot hitter wouldn't fall into the crater and break an ankle.  😄  I couldn't wait to steal that line and use it on another group of guys!

Hilarious, never heard it before - I’m stealing that one!

Last week, I’m not that bad but I badly topped/pulled an approach shot and somehow hit another players (unoccupied) golf cart even though it was well left of my line. On the next approach (sigh) he was 50 yards almost directly to my left and before I hit he asked “is my cart OK here?” We all laughed, self included.

Last year I was with a guy who tried to murder his drive, almost whiffed and topped the ball, and it literally went 10 yards. The guy he was riding a cart with said ‘do you want me to drive you to your ball?’ We all laughed, including the victim.

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Last year I was with a guy who tried to murder his drive, almost whiffed and topped the ball, and it literally went 10 yards. The guy he was riding a cart with said ‘do you want me to drive you to your ball?’ We all laughed, including the victim.

After retiring for a short time I had a part time job at a small country club in a university town (Oxford, OH). The morning ladies league had some very old players. Wonderful people, but it's hard to play good golf in your 80's and 90's, but they certainly had a lot of fun. If one of them hit it particularly well, the standard line was, Woo hoo, that's a rider!"

 

Among my own friends we have a guy who's the opposite of this thread. Everything is a great shot! "You can't hit that any better!" "That's your best of the day!" "That's an awesome swing." These come out even as the ball is spinning off into the woods, or coming up 30 yards short, or whatever. Every once in a while, on a really bad shot, he made take it back, but immediately comes back with, "You'll hit the next one great!" He's such a positive and fun guy that nobody ever takes it bad, but it is a running joke among the rest of us.

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5 hours ago, Middler said:

The trash talk can be pretty juvenile and repetitive (most people I know use the same tired s*** comments over and over and over), but a little is fine. I don't do it unless one player is really dishing it out, and then I just tell them to knock it off instead of engaging, because there's a fine line between friendly and unfriendly s***. I'm out there for in equal parts for golf, enjoying just being outdoors and camaraderie. Trash talk can degrade camaraderie, why mess things up? From what I've seen better players aren't usually the trash talkers...

Were all good friends and we're all military so we have a pretty dark sense of humor. It's all in good fun, we have worked with each other for decades and when were on the golf course we can throw rank away and throw zingers that we could not normally say at work.

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You know the old saying "Some guys just can't tell a joke"?  The same goes for needling.  I play with guys that talk trash all day long, ridicule one another, and poke fun.  BUT, when it's obvious that a guy is struggling with something, sometimes it's best to just keep the comments to yourself.  Timing is everything.

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Has someone ever made a comment that just got under your skin and ruined your round?
What did they say or do?
Were you able to get back on track? What helped reground you?
Absolutely a comment did affect me once when I first started playing. I was like 12 yrs old. Another junior golfer golfer said to me on the 1st tee "your swing is interesting why do you exhale at top of your swing " ? So I asked why does it matter? He said "with that hitch at the top of my swing I better learn to breathe right or into trees a guarantee ". I be darned if I didn't hit every tree off the tees the rest of day. Told the pro I needed help, he laughed and began telling me to get mentally stronger with thicker skin. It did motivate me to work hard so I could get revenge on that kid. I did after about 10 tries. But I do appreciate the lessons learned from it.

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Two situations for me: one is when I get to the tee box and get ready to hit and the other guys are yacking it up. I want to turn around and say shut up! But I know they wouldn't take it very well.

The other is a when (one person in particular) says great shot even though I may have had a bad shot. I know she's trying to be nice (and is sincere) but really.......



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13 hours ago, sixcat said:

I used to play golf several times per week with a coworker that played major college football.  He was a contributor on a team that lost in the BCS National Championship game in the 90's.  Needless to say, the guy was so overly competitive, he was always trying some stupid "gamesmanship" on the rest of us.  I usually just ignored him and did my own thing.  I got a little frustrated one day when he was playing as well as I had ever seen him play.  He was talking so much trash, I just got tired of it.

I said something to the effect of "man, I've never seen you play this well.  Do you inhale or exhale on the downswing?"  He struggled to get the ball airborne for the next two-weeks.

I've mentioned "Mask" in a few other posts on here in the past.  The guy is a treasure.  So incredibly thin-skinned and insecure for someone with his athletic background and affinity for talking trash!  Perfectly willing to dish it out but absolutely cannot take it!

Wow. So frickin funny!

Those are the kind of comments I am asking about.

A friend of mine said, "I never seen you play this bad." Or something like, "your swing looks ______."

It shouldn't throw me off but it does.

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4 hours ago, tony@CIC said:

Two situations for me: one is when I get to the tee box and get ready to hit and the other guys are yacking it up. I want to turn around and say shut up! But I know they wouldn't take it very well.

The other is a when (one person in particular) says great shot even though I may have had a bad shot. I know she's trying to be nice (and is sincere) but really.......



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